Funerals are times of deep reflection—a chance to say goodbye, share memories, and stand beside grieving families with love and support.

While the focus is on honoring the one who has passed, even the clothes we wear become part of how we show care and respect. Our clothing may seem like a small detail, but it can quietly send a message of thoughtfulness—or the opposite.

Traditions vary across cultures, but there are some widely accepted ideas about what’s appropriate. Choosing the wrong shirt can unintentionally come across as careless or disrespectful.

At a funeral, we should be mindful not only in our words and actions, but also in how we present ourselves. With that in mind, here are three types of shirts to avoid.

1. Brightly Colored or Flashy Shirts
Funerals are not the place for fashion statements. Shirts in bold colors like red, neon green, or yellow, or those with sequins and shiny fabrics, can feel out of place. Dark, muted tones—such as black, navy, or charcoal—are more suitable.

2. Casual T-Shirts or Tank Tops
Casual wear may work in daily life, but at a funeral, it can feel too relaxed. Shirts with logos, slogans, or sleeveless cuts don’t fit the tone. A collared shirt, blouse, or button-down is a far more respectful choice, even if the family suggests casual attire.

3. Bold Prints or Graphic Designs
Hawaiian shirts, animal prints, or graphic tees may be fine for social outings but clash with the somber atmosphere of a funeral. When in doubt, choose simplicity—solid, muted tones are best.

In the end, your presence should feel supportive, not distracting. Dressing with care is one way to show respect for both the deceased and their loved ones.